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A Daughter Finds Connection to the Father She Never Knew Who Died in Vietnam

July 09, 2025

A Daughter Finds Connection to the Father She Never Knew Who Died in Vietnam

A daughter finds a connection to the father she never knew, who died in Vietnam. Some stories sit quietly in the soul for decades, waiting for a moment to rise like sunlight after a long storm. That’s how it was for Kaui Keola.

She grew up on an island wrapped in hibiscus and saltwater air, but there was always a hollow space where a father’s voice should’ve been. All she ever really had was a faded photograph and the knowing ache that her daddy was gone. Killed in Vietnam when she was just three. Her memories were not moments—only whispers her heart had to imagine.

All She Knew Was That He Was a Marine

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“Basically, all I knew was he was a Marine,” Kaui shared, her voice soft like worn sea glass. “A gunny sergeant. His helicopter got shot down in 1966. That was it. That was all the information I had.”

The ache to know your father, to really know him, doesn’t vanish with time. It only grows quieter, buried under the busyness of life. But then, like grace wrapped in camouflage and surprise, a story aired from a Las Vegas television station.

Eighty-four-year-old Kenneth Pavese, standing at the Vietnam Veterans Memorial in D.C., gently touched a name etched in cold stone.

The Man Was Looking For Her Father’s Name

“Benito Igarta Jr. Right there,” he said.

And in her home in Halawa Heights, Kaui wept.

“He’s looking for my father’s name,” she whispered. “And I just broke down.”

Kauai Viewed the Clip

For the first time in nearly 60 years, someone was saying her daddy’s name like it mattered. Like it was still warm in the heart. Like he was remembered. The clip had found its way to her through a cousin, Kristen, who had simply said, “Take a look at this.” But for Kaui, it was like heaven cracked open and handed her a missing piece of her soul.

Kenneth Pavese wasn’t just anyone. He had served with Kaui’s father. He knew him. He respected him. And he remembered the shine of the helicopter, the pride Bentio took in his work, the way he led with quiet strength.

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Kaui Did Visit the Grave of The Father Who Died in Vietnam

Kaui’s own mother hadn’t shared much about her father growing up. Maybe the silence was her way of surviving the grief. Some people build walls to protect the tender places. So Kaui had grown up visiting his grave, but not knowing the man who filled the name etched on the stone.

Until now.

Not long after the story aired, she met Kenneth in person. She flew to Henderson, Nevada, and sat face to face with the man who had served beside her father.

It Was Meant to Be

“It was meant to be,” Kaui said, her eyes filling. “And I think it was God’s hand in this… and maybe a little bit of my father.”

Because sometimes heaven whispers through old soldiers and soft memories. Sometimes God walks us back to the ache just to show us He was always there.

“I could feel the respect he had for my father was so real,” Kaui said. “That he went to go find his name.”

She Wants to Bring Kenneth to Hawaii

Her dream now is to bring Kenneth to Hawaii, to let him meet the rest of the family, and to allow her father’s memory to become flesh in the stories Kenneth carries. Because when you never knew your dad, every sentence becomes sacred.

And isn’t that what we all long for?

To know we are seen.

To know we are remembered.

To know that even when the world goes silent, love never forgets.

So here’s to Kaui—and to every daughter still whispering “Daddy” into the quiet. God hears, He holds, and He weaves the lost threads back into our hearts.

And maybe, just maybe, He sends a soldier to the wall…So a daughter can finally see her father again.

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“A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.”  Psalm 68:5

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h/t: Hawaii News Now

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Heather Riggleman is a believer, wife, mom, author, social media consultant, and full-time writer. She lives in Minden, Nebraska with her kids, high school sweetheart, and three cats who are her entourage around the homestead. She is a former award-winning journalist with over 2,000 articles published. She is full of grace and grit, raw honesty, and truly believes tacos can solve just about any situation. You can find her on GodUpdates, iBelieve, Crosswalk, Hello Darling, Focus On The Family, and in Brio Magazine. Connect with her at www.HeatherRiggleman.com or on Facebook.  



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