Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

Dana Che

Kicking P*rn Use for Good & How Shameless Connection Leads to Recovery

November 18, 2025 ● 35 min

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I know p*rn isn't a topic that we like to discuss. It brings guilt, embarrassment, pain, and shame. But it's a topic we MUST discuss if we want to have authentic and whole relationships. Parents, your kids are looking at it. Wives, your husbands have it on their phones. Husbands, your wives are secretly into it. Of course, not all, but the numbers are staggering within both faith-based and secular realms. So we're talking about it.

I invited Sathiya Sam back on the podcast (he was a guest four years ago) because he's the real deal. He's got a personal story of being chained to p*rn for many years before he finally got free. And so can you (or the person you love). Parents, listen to this conversation with your children (both boys and girls!) I'll be listening to it with mine. Together, we can bring this conversation out of the dark and into the light so all who want freedom can get free.

Sathiya shares his personal journey and insights on healing from shame and building emotional regulation. Though women engage in p*rn too, Sathiya feels a burden for men, and so together, we unpack the root causes behind the struggles that affect men, women, and the impact on marriages and families. Sathiya also shares practical steps for how to have open communication both at home and in faith communities. Listeners will find hope, resources, and real-world strategies for supporting themselves and loved ones in breaking free from p*rn and restoring authentic connection in their relationships.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Man Within Podcast:
Find over 1,000 episodes of practical insights for men at Man Within Podcast.
Free Book – The Last Relapse:
Get Sathiya Sam's free book and learn more about the Deep Clean system at thelastrelapsebook.com.
How Connected Are You? Partner Quiz:
Dana Che's free resource to gauge connectivity in your relationship: danache.com/partnerquiz.
Recover from Infidelity
Learn about Dana Che's program, Infidelity Intensive.