Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

Dana Che

Could These 5 Unspoken Expectations Be Hurting Your Marriage?

March 31, 2026   ●   39 min

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As a marriage coach, I know firsthand how unspoken and unrealistic expectations can quietly sabotage even the strongest marriages. In this episode, I'm sharing practical strategies to help you define, communicate, and realign your expectations so you and your spouse can avoid unnecessary disappointment and disconnection.

We'll talk about the five most common unrealistic expectations couples face, including the beliefs that our spouse should never change, should make us happy, or should simply know what we're thinking. I share some of my own personal stories—like how my expectation for Shaun to be the spiritual leader in our home led to unnecessary disappointment and what I learned about the roots of where that specific expectation came from.

You’ll learn how to:

  • Get curious together instead of assuming your way is the only way

  • Stay flexible and open to growth as both you and your spouse change

  • Collaborate and celebrate your unique strengths as a couple

  • Let go of the pressure to change each other

  • Develop a gratitude mindset for a more joyful marriage

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