Therapy + Theology with Carley Marcouillier

Therapy + Theology with Carley Marcouillier

Carley Marcouillier

When You Hit the Wall: Understanding Deconstruction with Kristi Gaultiere

September 28, 2022   ●   38 min

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“I don’t know what’s wrong with me.”
“I leave church feeling shame or anger”
“I don’t know if I believe anymore”
“I’ve blown it and God is mad at me.”

Have you found yourself thinking these things? You’re not alone. These are the kinds of confessions Kristi hears in her counseling office all the time. And what she tells her clients is what she wants to tell you today: Your questions are normal, healthy, and God will use them as we come to understand the grace available to us.

Deconstruction does not necessarily mean you are leaving the faith. In fact, it’s often a normal part of the Christian faith journey. Today, we’ll look at what it means to deconstruct and reconstruct our faith when we hit the spiritual wall.

Kristi is a psychotherapist and spiritual director for women in ministry and pastors’ wives. She co-leads Soul Shepherding with Bill. She was personally mentored by Jane Willard and Dr. Jan Stoop.

As a pastor’s wife, mother, and ministry professional, Kristi offers empathy and wisdom from her experience personally and as a therapist who has spent many thousands of hours caring for people. Kristi enjoys speaking, training, teaching, consulting, counseling, and retreat leading with Bill, as well as recording their weekly Soul Talks podcast.

In this episode, Kristi and Carley talk about:

1. Our need for mentorship in our spiritual journey: we need people to walk with us through our challenges and sufferings

2. The Christ Stages of Faith

3. Deconstruction, “Hitting the Wall” and the benefits and temptations before and after the Wall

4. Tips for rebuilding faith after deconstruction and soul care practices

5. Creating a journey map of your faith


Do you have a question or topic you want to be discussed on a future Q+A episode? Carley would love to hear from you! Record your message here, and Carley just might answer it on the next episode!



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