What Guys Think About Modesty

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Thanks for this video. I appreciate hearing from a guy's point of view about the issue of modesty. It is important for both sexes to understand the opposite sex's views about lust and love. For guys I want you to also know that we ladies have weaknesses too. For us it might be the way we are touched or words that can lead us down the wrong path. Words like "she's hot (talking about us or other women)" or having attention focus on certain body parts (breasts, bottoms) put us in a vulnerable catagory of comparison and need for approval. Turning up the romantic heat in a relationship without a commitment is also a stumbling block for us that ends up leaving us confused and pushes us into sinful directions. Please handle our hearts and minds with care.

I like this video, christian women should keep themselves cover for their husband, unless if they are selling something? or just have no value for themselves.ungodly woman do what they do cuz that's what they are! tha'ts what separate us from them.

Did anyone give thought to location and climate? Girls and women who live and work in an area such as Florida, Georgia Hawaii and Texas are going dress much differently than those in Minnesota, based on climate! If you are at the beach and wearing a swimsuit, most women choose one based on how it fit's first and how it looks second. I don't think that we buy our beach wear wondering what men will think of them in this and if you do then those girls are the problem not the men. Furthermore, this mans view states that ALL men are the same and I know that is false! I believe in modesty to point and then there is just crazy. I'd like to call it, responsible modesty.

I totally agree that Christian women should dress modestly...for no other reason as to please God and be a godly example. There is no reason any body part should be showing or any clothing very tight....the reason for clothing that shows body parts and that is worn tight is for attractiveness and Christian women should focus on being attractive inside....not to say there is anything wrong with looking pretty or dressing sylish..but watching that the styles cloud our purity. NOW< MEN.....wherever you go you go will encounter worldly women, women who don't know how to be modest and even in the church. IT IS YOUR responsibility to look away! What about men while watching tv and a bikini or Vicotoria Secret commercial comes on....do you change the channel? If everyone worried about pleaseing GOd....this wouldn't be a problem....Also, they should make a video of a woman expressing how men need to be modest in their WORDS with women....not flattering her or defrauding her heart....men tend to flirt and hurt women when they show intentions that aren't there...

love god for destroying all the temptations and distractions! <3

This video just came around on my page but I so agree. Not until I really was grounded in the word did I realize what God has said to us about modesty. I thought as long as you were covered, then you were ok. There are so many clothing options out there, that even some that cover are so inappropriate. Men do need to take a stand and recognize those women and young ladies who do dress modestly. Allow them to see that this is the norm not the exception. Ladies, remember that God created you and no matter what you look like on the outside, the real beauty is on the inside. Jesus loves us the way we are. Men please show us the same respect.

As a father of 4 daughters, I was very interested in this video. But, my take away on this is a little different then some of the others that have posted here. WHO is the final authority on what is modest? We all know that it is God. My daughters are beautiful young women of God and I believe that they are very modest in what they choose to wear. But, my wife and I have been approached by some questioning what they are wearing. Should I clothe them from head to foot in garments? Who among us should have the final say? If there was more time spent on helping young men to better guard themselves to this issue- maybe from an early age- this would be an issue that can be lessened in their lives. I find that the "men/boys or just wired differently" or "Men are just visual people" simplistic excuses that are created to help deflect where the real work needs to be done- their heart. To follow this thought process to another areas of a man's life- should we have everyone drive rusted, dented, broken down cars? After all- this is another area where men find that their lust can be all powerful.

Hello, I'm french and would love to translate some videos (take the video and put subtitles on) as we are so poor in good christian videos here in France. This video is fantastic and should be spread among the French Chrsitians girls as well. fI you would be ok to "share the message" in France as well and help me to do so, please write me an e-mail on noemie67760@gmail.com in order to give me the video file that I might translate it. God bless you.

Men like to think they are "good" with women because of the way he treats a women sexually and by the way a women responds to the treatment by satisfying the sexual male needs. Naturally, women are just as needy as men. I'm not trying to provide any encouragement for stupidity, but I do know we all love the feeling of acceptance from other individuals, and a vast majority of our world where men and women alike are fighting for acceptance because naturally we crave it so much. We as human beings (not just the devil)create this natural neediness. The feelings of emotion mixed with unwise compromising of love and lust makes us lost in the dark. I think we all need to wise up! I also want say that the only way for people to really prove that they are good with other individuals is to treat others the way you want to be treated. Men, treat women with love and respect. Women, do the same for the men. Otherwise, stay single. hehehe

I certainly understand that there are two sides to this issue, but we have to keep in mind the desired result, rather than assigning fault. Most of us know tha by design men are visually stimulated. Being modest is not synonymous with being homely. Guys' reaction to seeing provocatively dressed girls is a little bit like rubber-neckers looking at an accident scene. It's involuntary. It takes a huge amount of self control not to look. Suppose you went to a friend's house who had a dog to grill steaks and your friend set the meat platter down on the floor outside. Then your friend went back out and found his dog eating the meat and scolded the dog. What would you think? Duh! Don't put the meat where the dog can easily get to it! It wouldn't make much sense to blame the dog because it's in his nature. See my point?

Well! For myself I do not know exactly what’s make the men / boys distracted especially we are part of an opened community, especially when my brothers in Christ are opened to the worldly culture too. My lovely respectful Dad is from different generation, and he cannot determine these things in the modern language. Practically speaking; I believe it depends on the atmosphere in the church/ community, and this atmosphere is shaped through the thoughts and opinions of the people who are part of that church/ community. Through my personal experience I was part of x church where the opened / short clothes are not a matter in that church no one looking… no one cares), but other churches/ communities ….it is a concern (again because of people perception who shaped that church/ community). Yes. We need to be unselfish and to consider the other people concerned and opinion! And what prevent us to dress modestly…. But I would like to share you something I experienced it…. I was distracted from a guy in x church and I was praying a lot for a freedom because his personality was so impacted and attractive to me! There are many ways to distract us other than the external appearance/ body.

I guess I could do with out the dramatic heavy breathing and quiet talking.....

I think they should all wear burkas too, guys!

It's a huge mistake to blame women's revealing clothing –- or women's bodies — for the thoughts that these young men have. The problem is actually a tenacious and ugly myth about male sexuality, one that tells us that average men simply can't be expected to restrain their eyes, their words, or even their actions when faced with the reality of a woman's bare skin. Because of that belief in male weakness, we outsource their missing self-control to women. And so this myth pushes women to police each other, slut-shaming or mocking those girls who are showing "too much." As long as we cling to the lie that it is women's bodies that are the problem, it doesn't matter whether women wear burqas or bikinis in public –- we'll hold them accountable for a man's "impure" thoughts about them, regardless of how much skin they're showing. There's only one solution, and that's to start believing that all men (not just a few decent ones) have the power to control what they think and how they act around women.

Many of you before me have said what you have to say about the issue of modesty. While I agree that modesty is important, as a young Christian woman, I also believe that women of every age should dress the way that makes them feel their best. That doesn't mean a woman is to wear skin-tight jeans, dresses that could pass as shirts, or skirts that could pass as belts. Instead, women should dress in a way that flatters, in a way that catches the eye without provoking impure thoughts. Modesty doesn't have to mean unattractive, ladies, remember that. Modesty simply means that you cover the parts of your body that are meant for your husband's eyes only. Wearing a bikini at the beach is one thing, but plastering provocative pictures of you in that bikini on facebook, is another.