Christian Teen Shares Final Thoughts Before His Death



  • 2011-12-31T09:09:47

Jim Starr God bless you Jim. Look at the way God had Ben bring all of us together. This is what God is talking about when he says he can take any situation and make good things come out of it if we put our trust in him. Last night I was awake thinking about Ben, his family and all the beautiful people whose names are here. Praying for all of you and thanking God for you. You all have such beautiful hearts. God loves you all so much. I remember being at church once and hearing the pastor say "God loves each and every one of you. He has no favorites. No matter what you think you have done wrong in the past, no matter what you may be doing wrong now in the present and no matter what you may do wrong tomorrow, he loves you". I sat there and thought about that. At first I wondered how could that be. That particular night I almost didn't come to church. The reason was because I was really angry at my husband, but I went anyways. My husband was sitting next to me at church. I tell you I couldn't sing the church hymns because I was so mad and I love to sing. I seriously thought I should just get up and leave because God probably doesn't want me here with all this anger. And then the hymns ended and the pastor spoke those words. I'll never forget them. I finally got it. I didn't need to be perfect for God to love me. He was going to love me in spite of my shortcomings. And I found out as time went on that God had what it took to help me overcome my shortcomings (which in my case was anger). This couple who has lost their little girl are going to probably experience anger like never before. Once the shock subsides anger will more than likely follow. They will blame themselves, maybe blame each other and maybe blame God. This was such a sudden and unexpected loss. I wish I could be there to help them. But, somehow I feel that if you look hard enough there is a person there who has gone through this, who knows Christ, and can help them. When my son died I was working in an office of around 300 employees. It was amazing how many people who were working there had also at one time lost a child. They came to me and shared their stories of loss. I couldn't believe it. They comforted me. The loss of this little girl was a freak accident. There was no way to know it would happen, otherwise they would have stopped it from happening. When I was about 3 almost 4 years old I had a very close brush with death. It was time for my nap. My mother tucked me in, gave me a kiss and closed the door. Unbeknownst to her I had snatched 5 big bubblegums from the pantry and hid them in my pocket. When she closed the door I crammed all 5 bubblegums into my mouth at once. I was sure I could blow the biggest bubble ever. Well, instead of blowing out I sucked in and down went the bubblegum and right into my windpipe it went. I couldn't breathe. I was choking to death. Long story short the bubblegum eventually popped out. I screamed for my mom. She came running into the room. I was crying hysterically. She saw the huge piece of bubblegum (and I mean huge, it was SuperBubble) and then I assume she realized what almost just happened, she grabbed me up, held me for dear life and started crying. But, do you see what could have happened had I actually choked to death? My mother would have blamed herself, my father probably would have blamed her and who only knows who else would have blamed her, grandparents, neighbors, etc. But how could she have possibly known I had those bubblegums. Only God and people with a heart like you can help this mother and father get through this. Pray, ask God to show you how you can help and he will guide your path. Sometimes things happen and we just don't understand why. I heard a pastor recently say he couldn't explain a lot of things. That he has an "I just don't understand Lord" file in his head and that's where he has to file things like this. I've suffered a lot in my lifetime. Have I ever asked God why? Oh many many times Jim. But one thing I know and I don't question is my belief that Jesus died on that cross for you, me, ALL of us because he loved us that much to sacrifice his own life for us, and that he came to save us and NOT to condemn us. And some day he's going to have all of us who trust and believe in him together with him in eternity. Trust him, he will never fail you. He will guide your steps. He will go before you and make the way. God will give you what it takes to help this family Jim. I think he already has, don't doubt yourself. Remember you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

  • 2011-12-31T08:45:52

It's so wonderful that God reveals the supernatural to certain people to assure all of us that there is marvelous Heaven. So it's true the people in some extreme conditions have comforts and assurances from God that are unknown to the rest us. We praise God for it. Most of us experience the distinct grace of God during life's difficulties as well. Truly, things are not always what it seems on earth.

  • 2011-12-31T06:33:29

John 7:24 Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.” Not all judgement is bad. In the same chapter in which Jesus forbade self-righteous judgment, He said, "Give not that which is holy unto dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you" (v. 6), and "Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves. Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles? Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit. A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit. ... Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them" (vv. 15-20). How are we to know who the swine, dogs, and false prophets are without judging? Notice that Jesus did not say, "Give not that which is holy unto those whom you think are probably dogs ... Beware of those whom you think are probably false prophets ... Ye shall have a pretty good chance of being right if you look at their fruits." No! He said, "Ye SHALL know them." We SHALL know who the dogs, swine, and false prophets are. We SHALL know the state of their hearts.

  • 2011-12-31T06:12:49

Thanks, Ben. People like you constantly remind us remaining ones that our days on earth are exactly numbered and that we must drink in everyday fully with Jesus like precious drops of water on desert in simple humility and gratitude. We look forward to be with Jesus, too, realizing each healthy new day on earth is a gracious, miraculous gift from God.

  • 2011-12-31T06:03:50

I agree with Becky Dearinger Williams, judge less ye be judged! I disagree that it is a Christians duty to question the validity of another's faith or lack of; we answer only for our sins and actions not of others!

  • 2011-12-31T05:51:30

What a powerful story you have. There is a Family not to far from where we live a few days before Christmas they lost there little girl she fell from a moving vehicle. Just a real bad situation It was a nice day for Dec. in Ne out checking pastures. So your going slow no roads I have done this to. kids not in there car seat why would they be its just a nice slow ride a cross the pasture. There little 3 year old fell out and was ran over. there's no one to blame. Why i am telling you this, I pray to God that some how your Story your Faith Your love for God will reach her mom and dad. the pain the blame that they are felling I could not come close to what they are going through. Please pray for this family and God bless you Melda. Thank you for giving me a chance to tell you this because its ways heavy on my heart. You give some meaning to all the bad things that happen to good people Thank you

  • 2011-12-31T05:15:23

Paul Abigail Miller I like how you said "I know a lot of people--hundreds--that give themselves the title of "Christian," but no one would accuse them of it." That is a real problem today. But, this is about Ben right now. From the information given to us we can only assume Ben was a christian. God works in mysterious ways, and I believe He will work through this video by bringing up questions such as "am I at peace with death?" or "Do I know God" I also do not believe this was an accident. Ben wanted to tell people in this video that heaven is real, and that he was comfortable with dying. This video is about courage in trial and insight to the future. Do not take away from that lesson. Sure Ben may not have been perfect but let them without sin cast the first stone. A persons spiritual life is a journey, some just may be further along than others.

  • 2011-12-31T04:08:38

Farrell Clark well said! And there doesn't have to be a perceived lack of compassion in doing so. It's just the right thing to do.

  • 2011-12-31T04:06:47

@ Leana Lane Whitlow Flaming comments? Not at all! This type of discourse has no emotion, so it's easy to assume and misinterpret things. While you've claimed to remove yourself, I hope at least you're reading this. Because you've way, WAY misjudged me here. I made it VERY clear from the very first post that I have compassion on the family and that I wish God's grace for them. I mean that and I wish (obviously) no ill will on them. This is a terrible time for them. What I am trying to do is look beyond the situation. Again, my original comments were as much spurned on by the other comments that came before mine, as they were by the word "Christian" in the video title. What I was reading from others was a blanket acceptance of this young man's "theology" (that's what his testimony is, even if he may not have termed it as such). And THAT is what I take exception to. Biblical Christians should know better. Obviously, I'm not the only one who sees this based on comments by other posters. But I have absolutely nothing but compassion and sorrow in my heart for this family. I have nine children. I love children, and I can't fathom losing one. If the Breedloves are reading this, may the Lord bless you richly. I pray that you will search the Scriptures for comfort. I would point you to the Psalms of David, and to the Gospel of John in the New Testament. If you've considered any of my comments inappropriate or offensive, please forgive me. That was never for a moment intended.

  • 2011-12-31T03:05:50

Paul Abigail Miller i get your point basically it comes down to proving all things 1 thes. 5:21

  • 2011-12-31T02:55:10

As he said he didn't want to wake up, so perhaps those experiances were tastes of heaven for the 3 times he felt he was dying, as to say "Ben" I"m always with you now and forever! cool! I can relate"".

  • 2011-12-31T02:37:56

thank you for sharing this at a time of mixed emotion for you, I'm sure. I'm a parent, my youngest son had a bad heart and required surgery... I too have a relationship with Jesus and have had many spiritual experiences; I should get around to writing that book : ) I cried while watching this, what a blessing... and isn't Jesus sweet? He sends a familiar person. My step dad had a dream where his grandma came and told him he would be okay, she would be his guide... before he died. Most likely Ben was churched as a child, and already knew of The Lord and he just wanted to share this with everyone, God uses us like that... my friend had pneumonia, dr. sent her to hospital, which sent her to convalescent care... her adult children came to see her, she'd gotten her hair done and they noticed how nice she looked, and commented about her feeling better. She said "Jesus came and told me I am going to be with Him now and everything is going to be okay". That night she died. God is merciful. God is good.

  • 2011-12-31T02:20:24

Very touching and powerful testimony You've made in this young man's life, LORD. Thank You! You are Most Beautiful! I thank you for Your love and Your life in us, and for the hope You inspire to live, to love and to worship You for the greatest privilege to know You. Please receive us, LORD, into the riches of your grace, both now and hereafter, and bind us together in Your love forever. AMEN, LORD. AMEN... thank you LORD...Thank you...

  • 2011-12-31T02:18:22

God bless this family in their grief. May He comfort them with the knowledge that their child is with the King of Kings forever more

  • 2011-12-31T01:56:59

God bless you, Breedlove Family - what a wonderful Inspiration your son, Ben, was to SO many!!!!!!!!!!!

  • 2011-12-31T01:36:46

He is in heaven. I have no doubt about that. Such a handsome young man :(

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