intimate, or something else?
Written by YouAreEverything
Posted on Saturday, February 9, 2008 at 02:43 PM.
Ok. I have to get this down because I cannot seem to explain it to anybody within earshot of my continual stream of blabber. But ok.
So last Wednesday I was at youth group, my favorite place to be almost anytime. I love my youth group. All of my friends were made there and I have a great night jammin onstage with our band (i sing, no duh) and meeting God there. But lately there seems to be a problem amongst some of the . . . boys . . . men? (Young men? Do I sound medieval??) in our YG.
Unlike many the other males I have some into contact with over the course of my life, they are quite different in regards to "physical intimacy" with one another.
Yes, I said pysical intimacy. Now watch, 'cause I'm about to go off.
While most other young men will greet each other with what I call the "guy nod" - the quick, up-down drop of the head - or perhaps, the high-five, or the handshake, or even the quickly uttered, "Hello," these guys take a slightley different aproach.
They run and JUMP on one another. Then they'll bury their face in the other's shouldar, hold on for a good 10 seconds, and then heartfeatly exclaim, "I'm so glad to see you, man, I've missed you. Come on, let's go."
Is this even remotely normal??? Is this sane? My mum was ranting about this in the car yesterday, and how much it creeps her out. She says that it's not healthy. I, on the other hand, have no idea what to think.
I mean . . . it's better than violence, right? Instead of smacking or hitting? They lay their heads on each other and lay on each other and hug each other. They even spoon and hold hands.
I've known all of these guys since I was a stringy little girl with hot pink braces and skinned knees. Now that we're alot older, I'm wondering what the boundry is between being affectionate, and appearing homosexual.
And I KNOW that none of them are gay. I know. They each like different girls (one of them even likes ME). They dress like every other guy and play sports and guitar . . . but is this ok? Where does the line get drawn? And should the adults even be bothered? Is it any of their business how these guys express affection? I'm so confused, and I don't know where I stand on this. Because it seems that other guys who didn't used to do this are now picking up on it, and there's going to be a meeting about this sometime soon. Does anybody have any thoughts? comments? an opinion?
'Cause I'm open.
some of my guy friends from Youth Group do the same thing, it's like their attached to one another,
like you said at least they're not be violent....on the other hand,
it does seem a little strange to me cuz usually you don't see guys so huggy with each other,
a lot of my guys friends at my Youth Group greet one another with slaps as well. maybe it's just a guy thing we don't get, like the how guys don't get why girls go to the bathroom in groups.
if we're talking homo!%%ual then I really dont know but we are to love them no matter who or what they are but if you feel like it is a problem then talk to your youth pastor.